Holding Space is the "operating system" of a Metta Circle.
Think of an experience that you do not feel comfortable speaking about (except perhaps with your close confidantes). Why do you feel uncomfortable?
Perhaps it is because you fear you will be dismissed ("that's not how it was"), judged (explicitly "you shouldn't have done...", or implicitly "well, actually, I would have..."), ridiculed ("that was silly"), invalidated ("you are overreacting"), or accused of dishonesty ("don't lie")?
To Hold Space is to create a safe space for another to express themselves (not only by speech, in any form of expression) by not reacting or responding in the above ways.
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In the meantime, we offer the following
- A personal narrative of experiencing being held here.
ChatGPT's description:
"Holding space" is a concept that involves providing emotional or psychological support to someone by being present and attentive without judgment, allowing the person to express their thoughts and feelings freely. It's a practice rooted in empathy, respect, and compassion, where one person creates a safe, supportive environment for another.
Here are key aspects of holding space:
- Listening Actively: Paying close attention to what the other person is saying without planning your response or interrupting. It means listening to understand, not to respond.
- Non-judgmental Support: Offering support and kindness without judging the person's feelings, actions, or decisions. This includes avoiding giving advice or trying to fix the situation unless specifically asked.
- Empathy: Trying to understand and connect with what the other person is feeling. This means acknowledging their emotions and showing that you recognize their experience without overshadowing it with your own.
- Physical and Emotional Presence: Being fully present in the moment, both physically and emotionally. This might mean setting aside your own distractions and focusing entirely on the needs of the other person.
- Allowing Vulnerability: Giving the person space to be vulnerable, share their inner thoughts, and even make mistakes or express difficult emotions without fear of criticism or dismissal.
- Maintaining Boundaries: Respecting both your own boundaries and those of the person you are supporting. This ensures that the space remains safe and productive for both parties.
- Offering Silent Solidarity: Sometimes, holding space means simply being there with someone, offering silent support rather than words, which can be powerful and healing.
Holding space can be practiced in many contexts, including personal relationships, therapy, support groups, and even in professional settings. It's a powerful way to support someone through challenging times, personal growth, or momentous life changes.